Do narcissists find damaged people appealing? If so, why?

I actually do not agree with that statement. I do not believe that narcissists seek out ‘damaged’ people nor do they find them appealing at all…

I have always believed that narcissists want the best of the best. The strongest, most attractive, successful, steadfast in their beliefs, and not easily manipulated.

Of course all people have their weak spots. Their achilles heel, to to speak. We are all only human afterall, and that is what they focus on and pay very close attention to so as to use later down the road on their mission for destruction. But just because a person has their weaknesses, that does not make them damaged in the slightest. (In my opinion…)

First, a narcissist would look at a damaged person as a chore. A project they aren’t exactly fond of getting involved in, and because they have no love inside, whatever ‘damage’ this person possessed would be looked upon as weak and utterly exhausting. Not at all charming or exciting.

Those are the things I believe attract the narcissist to the SO. The great parts about them…not the damaged ones.

Of course by the end, anyone who has spent any amount of time with a pwNPD will absolutely become damaged. It’s inevitable. And the narcissist takes great pleasure in this fact. They love to cause chaos. Wreaking havoc upon everything in their path.

When they devalue you, even if you aren’t quite totally damaged yet, the narcissist will have you so convinced that that’s precisely what you are…a damaged, worthless individual who they no longer can stand to be around and because they are so convincing, that is usually the final nail in the coffin.

But back to your original statement, I do not agree that a narcissist finds damaged people appealing. It is a weakness. A reflection upon themselves. A narcissist refuses to be viewed as weak…it’s basically the equivalent of shame to them…their absolute worst fear of all…so better to find someone with amazing, glowing attributes so they can feel good about themselves simply based on the qualities of their partner even if they do not possess any of those qualities of their own. And then their last and final mission is to take all of these beautiful qualities away leaving you damaged. Just like they are.

They are damaged souls with no light inside and as the old saying goes….Misery loves company.