How Do I Master Relations with Narcissists?

I really don’t. I tried, in the beginning…mostly for our son. I thought if I could get a ‘handle’ on it, it would make things a bit easier for all involved…but this isn’t something you can exactly get a ‘handle’ on….

First, I have always been extremely sensitive and emotional. So much so that it worried my parents a bit. But they knew I was never going to change, and they accepted me for exactly who I was.

I do not consider myself to be an empath, for many reasons, but I understand why so many people assume that I am. I do feel things deeply, I’m fairly intuitive, and I definitely have empathy, but I think it’s safe to say that most people (most non disordered people) can feel for another when they are in pain.

I never once felt sorry for him. Especially when I really started to learn about narcissistic personality disorder, because unlike most mental illnesses, this can be stopped. They absolutely know what they are doing, but they will never change.

I also can not relate, not because I had a very happy childhood but because I know of some people who didn’t, and yet…they still turned out to be extraordinary human beings. They could have chosen a different path. They could have been angry, jealous vengeful people, but they are some of the best people I have ever known despite some serious hardships.

The thought of actually setting out to hurt another is just very foreign to me. I have made mistakes. I have hurt people’s feelings but believe me…I more than lost sleep over it. And the majority of my friends (some that started out as children) are still my friends to this day.

To deceive another. Deeply hurt someone…on purpose…. It’s just unthinkable.

Yes, it is terrible if a child was abused or neglected in their childhood, but I do not believe that that is the sole reason for narcissism. I have heard many theories but the bottom line is this, even if something happened to you and it was terrible, and especially if it wasn’t your fault, I feel for you…you can’t imagine how much I feel…however, it is your responsibility to heal. If that means you take yourself to therapy, then go. If that means you constantly have to keep yourself in check, so be it.

There is simply no excuse to destroy another human beings life. None. I am sure some will disagree with me, but this is how I feel and if more people could take responsibility for their lives (again, even if it was less than pleasant) the world would be a much different place for all of us.