Ellen M. Lerner
2 min readNov 12, 2021

Is it Dangerous to Marry a Pathological Liar?

I’m curious…exactly what type of life do you believe you would have married to a pathological liar? I think ‘dangerous’ is putting it mildly….

How would your normal day to day go? How would the bills get paid? Let’s say they tell you that they have paid them…How would you know?

How would you know anything of great importance…not even great importance…just normal, every day stuff that goes on in everyone’s lives…

Did they do the laundry or did they just say they did the laundry. Did they run the dishwasher or just say they did and simply put all of the dirty dishes back in the cabinets? Did they make it to work on time? Did they make it to work at all? Do they even have a job?? This would literally plague me to the point I would more than likely develop an ulcer…or worse.

Why is this even a question on anyone’s mind? Who in their right mind would knowingly enter into a marriage with a known pathological liar? Why???

I just mentioned the fairly Insignificant stuff above…what about the big, huge, gigantic stuff…for instance….

Are they sleeping around? Have they always been? How many different partners have there been? Am I at risk for contracting a disease?

Is this person a criminal? If they are a pathological liar, why is that thought so far fetched? It’s not!

Am I culpable in this criminal behavior. Are my children at risk. And the list goes on and on….

Do yourself a favor…even if you asked the question merely for curiosities sake…do not even entertain this thought. This is not a life. This is a prison sentence in hell that you could be serving for eternity if you actually decided to stay.

I’ll make this short and sweet….

YES!!! IT IS VERY VERY DANGEROUS TO MARRY A PATHOLOGICAL LIAR SO HOW ABOUT WE CHOOSE A PERSON YOU CAN ACTUALLY ASK A QUESTION AND AT LEAST ASSUME THEY ARE BEING HONEST WITH YOU.

Life is hard under normal circumstances. Who would consider living a life with a fraud, a potential dangerous criminal, a cheater, deceiver and known pathological liar?

Yes, it is dangerous. No, you should not even consider this as an option unless you want to wind up ultimately living in some sort of mental facility because anything would be a step up from this nightmare of a scenario…

Know your worth. Choose a partner you can trust and most especially love and know that they love you in return.

Ellen M. Lerner
Ellen M. Lerner

Written by Ellen M. Lerner

My name is Ellen. I am a Composer. A Pianist and Vocalist. A Student. A Writer and most of all...I'm a Survivor.

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