Should you tell your hopes and dreams to a narcissist?

That is quite possibly the last thing you should ever tell them, along with what you love most and hold dear.

At some point during the relationship, these very special (sacred) things will be twisted and turned against you. I know because this happened to me…

Everything and everyone I loved I was told was a lie. I never loved them or I loved these people and things for the wrong reasons…or my favorite…an actual event that I shared with him I was told never actually happened at all.

When you are in the thick of it, and your own reality is questioned, it is when you start questioning these very things yourself is when you are at the most crucial point in your life with the narcissist.

You can let them succeed, which leaves them with more satisfaction than I can even describe, or you get it together. You remember exactly what went down. You ask those you love how they remember it, but most important, fight with all that you have to not let the narcissist take these beautiful things away from you.

These are yours. They belong to you and if you do not allow it, you are left with your memories and your truth intact. It isn't easy, but when you have something so strong living inside of your heart, even the most cunning of evil deeds can not take these things away from you…not if you refuse to allow it.