What Are Your Thoughts on Going on The Offensive when Dealing with a Covert Narcissist?

I do not feel it is a very good idea to go on the offensive when dealing with a pwNPD. Honestly, the less you react (in any way) the better.

A narcissist feeds off attention. Even negative attention. Each supply is just that…attention and a distraction. Distraction from what they are unable to face… themselves.

When the sh*t hits the fan (and trust me…it always does) you can fight it to the death, but all you are doing is giving them what they want and draining yourself and your energy on something that will never be resolved in a healthy, normal way.

Being sad will get you nowhere. If you think they care that you are sad or hurt, trust me…they do not. They simply are unable to. They are unable to feel for another human being in any way.

Being angry won't get you anywhere as well. If you raise your voice, they will make their voices louder. If you say something to hurt them, they will have a comeback that is right out of the devil's playbook. It is futile and exhausting. There will never be a resolution no matter how you play it.

Stay centered. Breathe. Don’t lose your sh*t, but by all means stand your ground. Do not start to believe the unfounded things they are saying…instead, get your purse, grab your keys, change your locks, block their number, hold your head up high, breathe once more, then walk away.

And never return.