What makes a narcissist think twice before hurting others?

Ellen M. Lerner
2 min readOct 19, 2021

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The only thing I can come up with (and I am really thinking in an abstract way) is that there is still something they want from that person so they will hold off on hurting them (for the time being…)

That being said, please understand….a narcissist does not think twice about hurting others. Ever! It is not only all they know, they actually get enjoyment out of it.

I’m sure some are thinking… but what about the beginning? The love bombing…they are wonderful and charming then, so they are not hurting others at that point….

Yes they are!! It’s a total set up! It’s their grand plan. They know exactly what they are doing which is leading you down the most horrific path a person could take…if that is not hurting others, I don’t know what is!

A narcissist does not care nor do they even contemplate how devastated a person will be due to their selfishness, greed, rage, and just all around what they put people through. They are not thinking… ‘maybe I shouldn’t say that…that could really hurt their feelings….’

A narcissist wants to hurt your feelings. They want to destroy every last piece of you until you are left a shell of yourself!

I’ll say it one more time (because I understand that many people do not want to believe this…) unless they are not finished with you yet, and have some sort of agenda, a narcissist will never think twice about hurting another human being. It is who they are. It is what defines them and if you let it continue, they could quite possibly hurt you so deeply that there is no coming back from it.

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Ellen M. Lerner
Ellen M. Lerner

Written by Ellen M. Lerner

My name is Ellen. I am a Composer. A Pianist and Vocalist. A Student. A Writer and most of all...I'm a Survivor.

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