Why Do I Feel Afraid and Shaken After Leaving My Narcissist? I Finally Feel Free But Also Have a Feeling Of Regret.

It is completely understandable that you would feel ‘shaken' after an experience like that one, but I think I can explain the regret part, because I felt that way too….

I do not regret one single outburst on my part. My defending myself. My anger. My uttter contempt for him by the end.. I had every right to feel and behave exactly as I did…the regret was the wasted time….

I felt as if I wasted everything on a man who was not worth it…actually…that’s putting it mildly…this man should be put away somewhere…but I regretted everything that I wasted on him…

I regretted the beautiful wedding dress I wore for a man who probably didn’t even notice. I regretted learning his favorite recipes to make him happy. I regretted how I tried to make holidays and birthdays special. I regret introducing him to my wonderful special friends. I regret what it did to my Mother…watching her daughter waste away into a person she no longer recognized.

Possibility your regret is different than mine. Perhaps there are still lingering feelings…feelings of love or remorse…maybe you are mourning the loss of the relationship but if that is the case, you have to know…that is not what a relationship is supposed to be. A person who claims to love you does not set out to destroy you…I know you know that…

Keep focusing on the feeling of finally being free. Free of the anguish, torture, sadness, fear. Focus on your new life, because that’s what you have in front of you…a new life just waiting for you to embrace and rejoice in.

You are going to feel shaken for some time. It’s natural. But at some point you are going to have to become as strong as you possibly can and let the fear go. Let the memory of a false love go. Let it all go. If you do that, you will truly be free…not just free from him…you will feel free in your life and there is no greater feeling on earth than that.

I wish you luck and I wish you strength. Start looking forward to a beautiful life…you deserve it.