Why Do People Judge Others But Not Themselves?

Because it’s just so much easier to do that very thing, don’t you think?

Most people (not all people) but most people like to take the easy way out. It certainly makes the load a bit lighter….
Or does it?

I believe at some point in our lives we have to take a good, long look at ourselves. And I don’t think many will like what they find…

Taking responsibility for our shortcomings is not an easy thing to do. It can take years for some, and for some, it never happens.

My best friend and I have been saying the same thing for quite some time now…we believe that each and every person who comes into this world should be issued their very own personal therapist.

Exactly like a pediatrician, elementary school, bedtime, storytime, bathtime, homework..it should be such a normal thing to discuss your problems, questions, and especially yourself with another person…and it should be paid for by the government.

I know…this sounds insane, but if I haven’t lost you yet, indulge me for just another second…

I realize that there are people (even if we did get our very own personal therapist for life) who not only would not take advantage of this luxury…they wouldn’t have the faintest idea where to begin, what to discuss, and the most important…how to be really, really honest.

But perhaps they could be taught. Not everyone. But the formerly known ‘lost causes’ might actually have a fighting chance if they had someone to listen to them.

Then perhaps things like projection, blame shifting (you know all the words) basically, just not taking accountability for ones own actions would be a thing of the past….for most.

I know…
‘you can’t save everyone’ and while this may be true, maybe a whole hell of a lot more people would have a fighting chance in this world of ours…

Because it’s getting old. It’s exhausting. It doesn’t just happen in a relationship with a narcissist. It happens all of the time.

As I said in the beginning…it’s so much easier to blame the other guy. It’s so much easier to sit back and watch while others are doing all of the hard work. It is very easy to take credit for something that isn’t your own…for most people…

But there are those rare few who are authentic. Who do seek out the truth and the bigger picture. Who own everything. Even if it isn’t always the easiest thing to do…I would think, in a way, it actually would make so many things so much easier.

So, right now, we do not have our own personal therapists. (I’m very fortunate that I do…) but get wise enough to know who your real friends are. Seek out the smartest of the bunch. Start asking questions (even if you do not always like the answer…) these real, wise friends will not give you an answer because they want to hurt you…they will give you their honest answer because they want to help you.

This is what I started doing in my own life, and I gotta say…I am very happy with the outcome so far…