Will the Narcissist Ever Change for the New Supply?

I can not answer on behalf of everyone, only what I witnessed and experienced.

My ex husband with npd knew exactly what I wanted in a partner. I did not want money, status, looks, constant attention, and someone who would agree with me about every single thing. But I wanted a true partner to walk through life with.

Always supportive and kind. Picking up the slack when one partner wasn’t doing so hot, and then when that person picking up the slack needed a little bit of help, the other person did the same. Give and take. Respect. Honesty. Loyalty. Devotion. I still wanted my freedom, and time to compose music, be with my friends and especially with my Mom. And most important…I wanted unconditional love.

He presented himself to be all of those things to me. I learned rather quickly he couldn’t even conceive of these things.

The next supply wanted very different things, so once again he portrayed himself to be just that. And so on and so on.

Nothing was a success (obviously) and perhaps he has given up. Maybe not…but what is most important to take away from this is this…a narcissist will behave (in the beginning) to be everything you have ever wanted. The actual living embodiment of your soul mate. And they are so gifted at this, it is next to impossible not to believe it.

The devil does not come to you dressed in red, with pointed horns on their head…the devil comes to us disguised as everything we have ever wanted